Create Your Own Light
Episodes
139 episodes
HIDE The HURT
In this episode I discuss the consequences to hiding a lifetime of hurt. I go on to talk about people who only want to support you when you're down, not when you're up. Enjoy! Grab My Book "Create Your Own Light":
My Grandpa D.C. Howze and Random Childhood Stories
I want to start telling more stories from time to time so in this episode, I decided to go off topic and introduce y'all to a man that I am writing about in my next book, my grandfather, D.C. Howze. The toughest of men, D.C. struggl...
FIT to HIRE but UNFIT for DUTY
In this episode I discuss Burnout and Generational Trauma. I go on to talk about the company you keep and Adrenaline fueled Infidelity. Thank you all for being patient with me while I took a much needed six month break. Enjoy! Gr...
Spouses Who DONT WANT TO KNOW
In this episode I discuss the importance of your spouse offering you a soft place to land before you land elsewhere. I also get into self-care, regular wellness maintenance and how exhausting it can be to always be ON. Enjoy!
Everything to Lose and Nothing to Prove
In this episode I discuss struggling through a heavy depressive episode that won't seem to end. I go on to talk about being human and not having everything figured out but refusing to give up. I also talk about seeking validation from external ...
Fake A$$ Brotherhood
In this episode I talk about the illusion of the First Responder Brotherhood. I go on to talk about the mindset of a young First Responder vs the mindset of a more veteran First Responder and how when you're down, people will rally around you. ...
When You WIN You LOSE
In this episode I discuss the feeling of failing when you are winning and the emptiness associated with it. I go on to talk about the harshness of our communication and how it is received by those that are the closest to us. I also talk about t...
Product of Your Environment
In this episode I discuss the future, being human and changing your path in life regardless of your circumstances. Enjoy! Grab My Book "Create Your Own Light": https://www.amazon.co...
It Must Be Nice
In this episode I talk about the optics of life and what people see vs what they dont know. I also talk about why having a fall-back plan is not always the best solution to success. I further discuss being around people that want to see you fai...
The Illusion of Happiness
In this episode I talk about the current burn out that I am experiencing and how a simple shift in thinking is helping me breathe. I go on to talk about the illusion of happiness and the search for my old self. Enjoy! Grab My Bo...
A Hero's Welcome
In this episode I discuss the challenges of being physically injured in the line of duty vs morally injured in the line of duty. I go on to talk about prioritizing work and family and the broken homes of tough guys. Enjoy! Grab My Bo...
Spouses Suffering in Silence
In this episode I talk about the spouses and the important role that they play in the wellness recovery of an individual diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress. I go on to talk about leadership, social media stress and more. Enjoy. Visit ...
Infidelity Among First Responder Families
In this episode I discuss the extremely uncomfortable topic of infidelity among first responder families. My hope is to shed a little light onto this dark epidemic that is also plaquing our first responders along with mental wellness. This will...
The Best Defense is NO DEFENSE
In this episode I discuss how sometimes the best defense can be no defense. I also get into how much of our time we are truly in control of and learning how to see things through the lens of other people, not just your own. Enjoy!Visit ...
Spouses Who Poke the PTSD Bear
In this episode I discuss spousal disagreements and the importance of knowing when to walk away vs stand your ground in a potentially volatile situation with your loved one. I also go on to talk about hypervigilance and understanding the mind o...
When a Mother Fu#%er Tests You
In this episode I discuss the importance of controlling your reaction to other people's ignorance. I go on to talk about other people who take your relationship for granted by constantly testing your patience and how to handle those situations....
What's Your Family Worth to You
In this episode I discuss how to break toxic cycles that impede positive growth. I go on to talk about the importance of having a supportive cast in your corner during this process. I also discuss the value of your personal legacy and climbing ...
How Hypervigilance Destroys a Family
In this episode I discuss the upcoming release of my new book while reflecting on my journey of growth. I go on to discuss the importance of understanding your family tree and just how certain individuals can unknowingly impact your bloodline f...
Family Over Career or Career Over Family
In this episode I discuss putting what matters the most at the forefront of our lives. Is it our family or our career? I go on to explain how many of us choose the devil we know vs the devil we dont and the potential cost associated with ...
Everything is an Emergency
In this episode I discuss being too hard on ourselves and knowing when to stop taking the blame for things. I go on to talk about people who attempt to take advantage of the term friendship and why everything in our life seems to be an emergenc...
Know Your Worth and Thank Your Spouse
In this episode I discuss having the ability to establish your value as it pertains to time, money, relationships and friendships. I go on to talk about celebrating small mental health victories even when no one is looking. I conclude with aski...
Keyboard Warriors and BS Apologies
In this episode I tell a few short stories about my recent experience on TikTok and the most ridiculous apology I have ever heard. I go on to talk about friends who are really there for and support you vs ones that would rather see you unsucces...
Friends in No Places
In this episode I talk about the illusion of happiness and the importance of friends. I go on to discuss the power of self-restraint in a challenging world and not using your PTSD diagnosis as an excuse to be an asshole. Enjoy! Visit ou...